To love again…

by Martijn
To love again

What you will find in this article

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Before we dive into today’s article… Hi! I’m glad to be back! I’m all settled at my new place, I set up the new studio in my living room. When I look out the window I see nothing but nature and the community pool, which I used for the first time yesterday. And life in this little village is good. The air is clean and fresh, the beach and mountains are close, and all I hear are birds. Thanks to all of you who patiently waited for new content, and hello to all new subscribers who joined in the meantime.

Today we’re gonna find out if it’s possible to love again after breaking up with your twin flame or soulmate.

In love again

Is it possible? For almost 6 years I truly thought it would be impossible. But, somehow, it happened, and I found myself in love again.

You know, it’s funny how life changed. I smiled more often, I seemed to have elevated my ability to enjoy the smaller things in life again, and I felt more inspired. Inspiration always comes from love, and that inspiration once again led me to be inspired to inspire, to be motivated to motivate, and to love to be loved.

It’s different though. Many things have changed. I moved to a new place at the start of the year. I left the big city after almost 8 ½ years and now wake up to the sound of the birds chirping as my alarm. Life in this village seems to be slower, people walk seemingly more relaxed and somehow seem to be happier. But maybe, that’s just a reflection of what I see in myself.

In the past months, I’ve also invested a lot in myself. I dove deep into my soul, my subconscious mind, past lives… and what I found was confidence and self-esteem. This expresses itself in many different ways that I’m still exploring. And I don’t think I’ve even scratched the surface yet. At some point, I will get back to this topic and explain how I did it but right now is not the time yet.

I also started to exercise almost daily and I discovered a passion for cooking, especially Indian and other oriental dishes. But also homemade pizzas are a treat and so rewarding to enjoy after a long, hard week of work. And it feels great to take control of my health again. To stretch, to get the blood flowing, to sweat, and healthily challenge myself. And knowing what is actually in the food you eat, is priceless. Now I just need to find a balance between my tremendously demanding day job as a manager of different teams, totaling about 100 people at the moment, and the self-care, social life, and my spiritual practice.

A lot of things have changed for the better. It feels good to be inspired again, despite the state of the world we appear to live in today. And, without realizing it, I fell in love. After almost 6 years. I admit I had lost all hope. And I did not expect this to happen anymore. To get to know someone who attracts me physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually all at the same time seemed to be impossible.

Let love be love

So, who is she?
Well, all I can say is that she’s amazing in every single way I’ve gotten to know her. I forgot to mention one thing though. She’s not available. Yeah…
When I found out, I needed to reflect on that for a few days. To internalize and process what I did not want to hear.

I don’t want to interfere in anyone’s relationship. So, I’m not even sure if I’ll ever tell her. I’m trying to let myself be guided from within and let destiny do whatever it needs to do. But, sometimes I feel I should tell her, and then let destiny do its thing. I guess the future will tell sooner than later.

Anyhow, I came to the beautiful conclusion that love is still love. Love can and should be enjoyed, whether it can be returned or not. I’m pretty sure you can remember how the entire world was more beautiful and enjoyable when you were in love. It seems like all your senses are enhanced, the fragrance of the food multiplies, the music intensifies and touches your soul, and human connections become deeper and more meaningful. Not because the food, the music, and the people you interact with changed, it’s because you changed. If you let love be love it’s impossible to not get it back in return. You just have to remain open and detach from how you expect it to come back to you.

You changed your view on life. Your experience of life is now infused with love. And what I have been experiencing in the past weeks is cruel and disappointing from the ego mind’s perspective. But it’s inspiring and exciting when I just focus on the love. Love cannot hurt. What hurts is the belief that love can leave you when it’s not returned in the way you hoped it would.

The source of your emotions

Do I feel sad I’ll probably never get to kiss her? I’d be lying if I said I don’t. But more than anything else this experience has given me hope. Hope, that someone else will show up out of the blue, just like she did. And now I know it is possible. And now I’m open to it, and my mood was lifted, my confidence has risen, and my vibes are embracing the world again, I have love to give. Because once more I finally am experiencing that I am love in its purest form.

And so are you. The truth is, we don’t need anyone else to get to this realization. Everything occurs in the mind, and it’s just one thought, one belief, and one emotion away. But it would be very pretentious to say that it’s not easier to get a confirmation of the love that you are, through the interaction with the people around you.

It’s easier to be triggered by others, loved ones, or not so loved ones. It doesn’t matter. But, usually, you believe those interactions are the cause of your emotions. They triggered some sort of response within you. This is not true. The source of your emotions lies deep within your expectations and the true objective behind all human interaction. And as long as your objective is to gain something, which is what we do all the time, albeit consciously or not, your emotional state of being will be seemingly controlled by everyone but you.

The only thing you can give without losing anything

When you understand this, you have found the key to controlling and understanding your deepest emotions. Not by managing and suppressing what external circumstances appear to have done to you, but by changing the objective behind all the interactions with your external world. Start giving, instead of taking. Give, without knowing the outcome, give because you love. Give because you are love. Give because nothing can diminish what you are in any shape or form. Give love, because you are love and because it’s the only thing you can give without losing anything.

That doesn’t mean you need to give anything physical. Giving is a mental state of awareness of who you are. And by realizing you are love, you see everyone else is too. And you give them the gift of recognition. It reveals the invisible and unbreakable bond we have all shared since the beginning of time. And when the foundation of all your interactions with the world around you is this understanding, your emotional response will not depend on the outcome of those external interactions. And you will be ready to truly love again…

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