Get Over the One Who Got Away: Moving On from Rejection

by Martijn
Get Over the One Who Got Away: Moving On from Rejection

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If you’re reading this article, chances are you’ve experienced the pain of rejection in a relationship and possibly even a twin flame relationship. I know firsthand how difficult it can be to move on from that kind of rejection. In fact, many of you have found my blog through my articles about twin flames, and while I’m grateful for the support and engagement, I don’t want to continue focusing on twin flames all the time. I believe it’s important for us to grow and move forward, and I want to offer you the tools and support you need to do that.

One thing I’ve noticed is that a lot of people turn to tarot readings or other forms of divination in the hopes of finding answers or closure after a twin flame breakup. While I understand the temptation, I also believe that relying too heavily on these methods can actually do more harm than good. It’s important to find healthy ways to cope with our emotions and to focus on our own growth and healing.

So if you’re ready to take the next step in your journey and move on from the pain of rejection, I hope you’ll join me and stick around for this video and future content. Together, we can find the strength and resilience we need to heal and move forward. Remember, true growth and healing can only be achieved through inner work and self-reflection. External influences, like those tarot readings, can only block you from doing the necessary inner work to heal and move on. Let’s focus on ourselves and take control of our own journey toward healing and happiness.

For those of you specifically dealing with rejection from a twin flame, you’ll definitely want to stick around to the end because the last tip is especially for you. But before diving into the tips I want quickly share my own experience with rejection, as I think it’s important for you to put things into perspective.

My Own Journey with Rejection

I met the woman who I consider to be the love of my life a few months after asking God for true love, in April 2016. From the very beginning, we had a deep sense of recognition and connection. Despite this strong connection, she was very reserved and didn’t speak much about her feelings.

However, one day, when I told her “I would marry you tomorrow,” she responded with a surprising “me too.” It seemed like things were going well between us, but just a few weeks later, she asked for time for herself and we ended up breaking up.

After our breakup, she disappeared for over a year but reached out to me in November 2017. She called me three times on the phone, but we never got to meet in person again.

The moment we broke up in August 2016, I told her to “please only come back if you’re ready to spend the rest of your life with me.” I guess, she thought she was ready, but after those three calls late in 2017 and one on New Year’s Day in 2018, she disappeared again. Until today.

Since then there have been tons of signs and surreal and sometimes even paranormal experiences that have confirmed this deep and unbreakable bond we share together. At first, that was just agonizing to me. But now it’s something that brings me peace and it reveals a smile on my face every time I think of her.

She never explained what happened or why she disappeared, leaving me with tons of questions and no closure. It was a confusing and painful experience, but I learned a lot from it and I believe it has made me stronger. And I know exactly what I did to move on and find peace, joy, and happiness. So let me share a few of the things that helped me get over rejection from the love of my life.

6 Practical Tips for Getting Over Rejection

1. Allow yourself to feel and process your emotions

When we experience rejection, it’s natural to feel a range of emotions, such as sadness, anger, hurt, or even relief. It’s important to allow yourself to fully feel and experience these emotions, rather than trying to push them away or suppress them. This can be difficult, but it’s a crucial step in the healing process.

One way to allow yourself to feel your emotions is to find a healthy outlet for them. You could try writing in a journal, talking to a trusted friend, coach, or therapist, or engaging in activities that allow you to express yourself, such as art or music. It’s also important to give yourself permission to feel and experience your emotions, rather than trying to ignore or minimize them. Remember, it’s okay to feel sad or upset after a rejection, and allowing yourself to fully experience these emotions can help you release them and move on.

Another helpful tip is to practice mindfulness, which means bringing your attention to the present moment and observing your emotions without judgment. This can help you become more aware of your emotions and allow you to process them more effectively.

It’s essential you understand as quickly as possible that you should not try to find a solution in your external experience. Meaning, you should not try to get back with your love interest or force any physical changes in your external world. The solution is within yourself, in understanding and controlling your mind and your thoughts.

2. Practice self-care

Taking care of yourself is essential for your physical and emotional well-being, especially after experiencing rejection. Engaging in self-care activities can help you feel stronger, more resilient, and better able to cope with the challenges you’re facing.

Some examples of self-care activities include:

  • Exercise: Regular physical activity can help boost your mood, reduce stress, and improve your overall well-being.
  • Get enough sleep: Adequate sleep is important for your physical and emotional health. Make sure you’re getting enough rest to help you feel more energized and better able to cope with difficult emotions.
  • Eat a healthy diet: A nutritious diet can help you feel better physically and emotionally. Make sure you’re getting enough fruits, vegetables, and other nutrients to support your overall well-being.
  • Take breaks and relax: Make time for relaxation and enjoyable activities that help you de-stress and recharge. This could include activities like meditation, yoga, or simply taking a warm bath.
  • Seek support: Don’t be afraid to reach out to friends, family, or a coach or therapist for emotional support and guidance. It’s important to have a support system to help you through tough times.

Remember, practicing self-care is not a sign of weakness. It’s a way to show yourself love and care and to give yourself the tools and resources you need to cope with difficult emotions and move forward.

3. Talk to someone about your feelings

Sharing your thoughts and emotions with someone you trust can be a powerful and healing experience. It’s important to find someone who is empathetic and non-judgmental, but at the same time doesn’t show pity. Look for individuals who are positive-minded and encourage self-inquiry, as they can provide valuable support and guidance as you navigate the healing process. This could be a friend, family member, therapist, or coach who is willing to listen to you and offer understanding and support.

When you talk to someone about your feelings, it’s important to remember that the purpose is to express yourself and receive support, not to find solutions or fix everything. It’s okay if you don’t have all the answers or if you’re not sure how you feel. The important thing is to have a safe and supportive space to explore your emotions and receive guidance and encouragement.

Talking to someone about your feelings can help you feel more connected and less alone. It can also provide a sense of perspective and help you process your emotions more effectively. Remember, healing is only possible when you take full responsibility for your own experience and do the inner work that is necessary to move forward. Don’t be afraid to seek out support and guidance when you need it.

4. Reframe your perspective

Instead of seeing rejection as a personal failure, try to view it as a learning opportunity or a chance to grow and improve. Look for the silver lining and focus on the personal growth and self-discovery that can come from difficult experiences. This can be challenging, but it’s an important step in the healing process.

One way to reframe your perspective is to engage in self-inquiry. Take some time to reflect on the situation and ask yourself questions like: What can I learn from this experience? How can I use this as an opportunity to grow and improve? How can I take responsibility for my own healing and growth?

Remember, healing and growth are not something that happens to us, but something we actively engage in. By taking responsibility for your own healing journey and actively seeking out opportunities for growth, you can move forward and find joy and fulfillment in your life.

5. Keep an open mind and heart

Don’t let rejection close you off from the possibility of finding love and happiness in the future. Remember, the key to healing and moving on lies within you. Take ownership of your healing journey and trust that you have the strength and wisdom to navigate it.

After experiencing rejection, it’s natural to feel hurt and to have negative thoughts and emotions. It’s important to allow yourself to feel these emotions and to process them in a healthy way. However, it’s also important to remember that rejection is not the end of the world and that you have the ability to heal and move on.

One way to keep an open mind and heart is to practice gratitude and focus on the good things in your life. This can help you find joy and fulfillment in the present moment and keep you from getting stuck in negative thoughts or feelings about the past.

It’s important to remember that the growth, learning, and strength you gain from the experience of rejection can provide you with new, more fulfilling opportunities in life. If you choose to stay stuck in the past and let rejection hold you back, you may miss out on these opportunities. Instead, try to focus on the present moment and the opportunities that are available to you right now. Embrace the growth and strength you have gained and trust that you have the wisdom and capacity to navigate your healing journey and find new, more fulfilling opportunities in life.

6. Don’t Let Twin Flame Rejection Define You

It’s important to remember that twin flames are not your only source of love and fulfillment. While the connection with your twin flame may feel deeply meaningful and special, it’s important to recognize that there are other sources of love and fulfillment in your life. This could include your friends and family, your passions and hobbies, or simply the love and care you give to yourself.

It’s natural to feel deeply connected to your twin flame and to want to pursue a relationship with them. However, it’s important to remember that you are not defined by your relationship with your twin flame and that you are capable of finding love and fulfillment in other areas of your life. Whatever happens, you will always be connected with your twin flame, even if their physical presence is not guaranteed. The connection will never be lost, and you have the freedom to enjoy and experience other connections without it having a negative impact on your connection with your twin flame.

Remember, there are many sources of love, contentment, and realization in your life, and you are worthy of love and happiness no matter what.

Conclusion and Final Thoughts

I hope these tips are helpful as you navigate the process of letting go of rejection in love. Remember, the key to moving on and finding happiness again lies within you. All the answers and information you need to heal and grow are within your own heart and mind. Don’t let external influences or distractions hold you back from doing the inner work that’s necessary to move on and find joy and fulfillment in your life. Trust yourself, be kind to yourself, and remember that you have the strength and resilience to overcome any obstacle. Take things one day at a time and don’t be afraid to reach out for support when you need it.

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